H has issues with forgiveness. Don't think he has ever forgiven anyone of anything. Cross him and you're gone, just like that.
Hmm... BIM... I'm ashamed to say that your H and I share something in common.
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H is supposed to learn forgiveness. Either he will learn it
That will be a minor miracle. Please don't think I'm defending him. I'm not. I don't condone his behavior.
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OR he will grow into a bitter old man in the years to come.
Perhaps.
I share some similarity with him on the "cross me and you're out" front. I'm only speculating now, but if you dig a little deeper into his past you will probably find: A history of constant and repeated betrayal by friends and family throughout his life. i.e. Every time he's chosen to forgive a second or third time its come back to bite him and caused him more pain.
So... at some point in his life he decided that it's less painful to "mind wipe" someone than to forgive them and be hurt again. I'm talking from personal experience here (I could be wrong) If the above is true, please don't ask how to correct it because I wouldn't know. Maybe a qualified professional could help.
I'm only sharing this with the hope it will give you further insight with him. Trust is his biggest issue. If you can find a way to win it back then I'd say you're halfway through the battle.
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