In shock...

[praying_in_GA]

Kelly, I am sorry you posted in the wrong place. I am also sorry for your situation. I hope you get some answers soon.

[praying_in_GA]

So, my H talked to my sister today and told her everything we talked about today. I can't believe he came clean to her.

What do I do?

[brownidmom]

So, my H talked to my sister today and told her everything we talked about today. I can't believe he came clean to her.

What do I do?

(((PiGA)))

So sorry that this is happening, especially the way it is happening. Your sister??? That is low. Not sure how one is to recover from this. Here is your opportunity for setting a boundary.

I think your H told your sister to see what her response would be; an easy way to admit his feelings to her. How do you know he told her? Did he tell you or did she tell you?

BIM

[praying_in_GA]

So, my H talked to my sister today and told her everything we talked about today. I can't believe he came clean to her.

What do I do?

(((PiGA)))

So sorry that this is happening, especially the way it is happening. Your sister??? That is low. Not sure how one is to recover from this. Here is your opportunity for setting a boundary.

I think your H told your sister to see what her response would be; an easy way to admit his feelings to her. How do you know he told her? Did he tell you or did she tell you?

BIM

He told her everything he told me. So, I know what he said. She told me and I confirmed it with him. She said she would not do that to me.

He is dead set on the divorce. He wants me to let him be free of me. He is fine with me dating, he is fine with me moving on, he is fine with me distancing myself from him. He has set his mind and I cannot change it...no matter what DR or DB efforts I put into it. Apparently everyone around me saw the 'passion' was gone except me. He has already stopped seeing me or talking to me except when necessary.

I feel like I should give him what he wants and let him go. Sign the papers and let him go. He doesn't want me and he has no desire to try to make this work. He is 'blank' when he sees me. There is no emotion there anymore.

I am crying. I am angry. I am tired. I am so hopeless. I am about to be divorced. I feel like I should give up.

[praying_in_GA]

He has been unhappy for many years. He said he has been 'pretty good' since he is free of me. I don't think he is going to miss me. I am going to have to look at DR or DBing as me moving on for good with no chance to even look back on our marriage.

I think i am going to take the wedding pictures down. I think it is time to take off the wedding ring. I think it is time to purge my house of my unhappy husband. I am truly a single mom and I am hurting so much right now. I am in pain.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I'm so sorry, PiGA.

Puppy

[praying_in_GA]

Thank you Puppy. This site came too late for me. I feel it in the depths of my soul. It is over.

[praying_in_GA]

He might come back to me later....maybe years from now....I just don't see it happening. I have to let this go for my sanity and my emotional health.

[Lll54]

Yes, you definitely do. I'm so sorry to hear what is happening. There has been a big change of events in a very short time for you so it is understandable the pain you feel.

I wouldn't say "give up" per say, but maybe take a break. Start working on yourself right now. You are what matters to you. He shouldn't matter to you right now. So as much as it sounds like a broken record and believe me I know, as people are CONSTANTLY saying it to me, take this time to love yourself. You are a good person, you didn't CHOOSE to be in this situation, but you can CHOOSE how you are going to get through it. I know how you feel right now, as my own situation is slowing falling through the cracks as we speak. It sucks, it sucks so bad sometimes I want to crawl in a hole and go away forever. But I look down at my two little boys and realize I have my whole life ahead of me. We are going to be fine. It doesn't feel that way right now, but we will. Let him go, if its meant to be he WILL come back. Sorry again, take care of yourself.

[praying_in_GA]

Thanks Britt. I am sorry to hear about your situation too. I think if my H would have come to me sooner the site and the books would have helped. It is just too late. I would love for him to come crawling back in a year...two years...three years.... but maybe by then I won't feel so happy to see him.