He sounds so mean and heartless...OMG 3 yrs. and no change at all???? I dont think I would tell her anything what good would that do....my mom has always said that we never leave this earth without paying back what we have done to others and one day he will get what he deserves.......I pray that all will go well for you, we also live hundreds of miles from my husband, in a way that is better, dont have to worry about running into them at stores....it scares me to think that I will give up one day...my husband hasnt divorced me but that could happen at anytime I am sure she wants to be the next Mrs. And you are right they get the prize dont they....a man who leaves his family, a cheater, a liar,and everything else they have become....what a winner....they way I see it we got the very best of them.....may God be with you always.....