I decided today that I was going to give up on any hope for XH to come to his senses and make the people who loved him his priority. I guess I just am not committed enough to keep loving someone who is sooo messed up and messed up me and my kids life to the point of no return. I just can't take all he has done to me and just want to move on with my life & find someone who is trustworty. I know myself and know that even if he all of the sudden wanted to come home, I don't want him. He is just such a liar, manipulatior, deceiver, etc. I know he is in MLC, and I believe in them 100%, but at some point these people have to be held responsible for the actions they have chosen, they are not babies, teenagers or aliens...even if they do act like it. They are adults and they do know right from wrong, my 10 yr old knows right from wrong. I am sorry my XH is so messed up, but I stood by him for 3 years, I am too young to waste anymore time on him, life is just too short. I gave him the best years of my life, three kids and all my love, if it wasn't and isn't good enough for him, he is the one losing out. I am done, he wants OW, she wants him even though he cheated on her with me!! I just want peace, health and a new life. I am not done DBing, cause I will continue to improve me no matter what, I am just done with XH. He is not worth my time or effort.
I just don't think there is anything more to do and he has made his choice very clear by letting us move 700 miles away and not caring. I have never even gotton close to telling all he has done to my kids, it is beyond cruel.
All of you who continue to hold out hope are very inspiring to me, and I wish you all the best of luck. I'm sure everyone on here has wanted to give up, and I know I will waiver back and forth. But, the amount of disrespect my XH has for me and our kids is just too much to overcome. I believed love lasted forever, I don't anymore. I took my marriage vows to heart and followed them, he broke them and told me tonight "she won, you lost, you need to get over it, we are divorced, I am with her and you need to stop caring about my personal life, cause I don't give a F about you or yours, I don't care what you are doing and I have no respect for you" I really don't think she "won" much...a liar, cheater, fat, cold-hearted, broke, soon to be homeless due to letting our house go to foreclosure, alcholic man! His issues go way too deep. He made his choice and now he will finally see what it is like to have to live with them. I am moving on in a big way...I deserve happiness and not to be beat down, told I am an evil c**t, etc.
I appreciate all the support on here, I will keep reading. I just want the drama to end, and it never seems to no matter what I do, I caused a lot of it lately, compared to what he has done it is nothing. He just cannot comprehend all he has done and caused, he thinks I am messing with his life and I have no right to do that (I'm not). He messed with my life first, OW messed with my life first, I don't know why he thinks that he should just be able to walk off and do whatever he wants with no consequences for anything. I have no desire to allow this man to hurt me so much anymore, he took too much already, he is not taking any more from me. I know I was letting him do that to me, I know I am to blame for a lot of things, but I also know I deserve better and there are men out there who won't do such awful things to me, they are out there and I deserve one someday. People can only take so much, and I have taken all I can take when it comes to him. Thanks everyone!!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
He sounds so mean and heartless...OMG 3 yrs. and no change at all???? I dont think I would tell her anything what good would that do....my mom has always said that we never leave this earth without paying back what we have done to others and one day he will get what he deserves.......I pray that all will go well for you, we also live hundreds of miles from my husband, in a way that is better, dont have to worry about running into them at stores....it scares me to think that I will give up one day...my husband hasnt divorced me but that could happen at anytime I am sure she wants to be the next Mrs. And you are right they get the prize dont they....a man who leaves his family, a cheater, a liar,and everything else they have become....what a winner....they way I see it we got the very best of them.....may God be with you always.....
