Not sure what to do

[bluerain]

I want to be very clear on something here, When I say you remove support, Im not talking about your kids. If in some capacity you need to be a father, then thats what you need to do. None of this is their fault, so if they need a ride next thursday night or whatever, then you need to be there for them.

Maybe it would help if instead of looking at it as She wants You to do something with the kid for Her, you should look at it as the kid needs this, and she cant do it right now.

Now, that being said, dont take over everything for her, and dont let her shove all of the responsibilities off on you, but you have to make sure that those kids are covered and know that they can count on you.

Some of these personality disorders tend to be a little more likely to manifest after a traumatic event. If someone is predisposed to it, the stress can bring is out in someone. I would calm down right now as far as it goes, she could just be having a hard time right now due to the circumstances, havent we all been through that?