A LOT has happened since my last post. We've been talking more, mostly with her initiating it. I got a cell plan with text/internet, which has been fantastic. Bought it so that I could just send quick info instead of calling her, and it's been working in my favor. She contacts me everyday, and I'm able to take my time with responses, think about what I want to say, or just ignore and let her pursue. One night she was out too late after bowling and was texting me asking if she could come over. Said she wanted to be by me. It felt great to read that. She never came over though. I didn't have my hopes up. I knew the OM was out of town for work, so it probably wouldn't have happened if he was home. But that's much better than a few months ago when she didn't want me at all, so it's a positive to me.
We've been getting along pretty well. Doing a lot of family things together. Trick or treating on Halloween, went to Mall of America for our son's birthday (spent the entire day together 8am - mid, and we had a blast!), went shopping together, etc. I've been doing my best to just be me, not ask any R questions during our time together, just be a great dad. She's been so much better to be around the last few weeks, finally acting like the woman I fell in love with (imagine I'm doing the same). Gotta keep in mind to let everything go slowly, no pushing. We've been taking a lot of babysteps forward, and I'm ok with that.
I believe one of our steps forward came from me sending a fb letter to her mother. It was a goodbye letter, very polite, nothing negative against them or WAW. I had asked her mother not to tell WAW, but she did, (yeah I know, I was drinking) and it started an email conversation with my wife a few days later. There was some difficult affair talk during that (started by her), but it was mainly positive.
I'm kinda rambling, but there's just so much that's happened, and I needed to get it out somewhere. Gotta remember to keep it slow, and don't expect anything.
