To me an EA in my case is where I was emotionally attached to another man without the sexual contact.
I was at the time suffering form depression or 'empty nest syndrome' if you will. I have struggled with the kids growing up and leaving home. I tried to talk to my husband about it at the time and his response was to tell me to pull myself together or to get to the doctors and sort myself out. It wasn't what I wanted to hear I needed time to grieve my kids growing up. My H tried to be nice to me and talked about how great our life would be when the kids grew up and so on but to me it came over too pushy, I wanted to enjoy the remainder of the time I had with the kids at home. During this time I met up with an old boyfriend who understood how I felt and listened to me, which was what I needed. I let it go too far and thought I was in love with him. It was a bad mistake. My H found out and gave me 24 hours to make my mind up whether to stay or go. I choose my marriage and stayed although I found it hard to love my H in the way I should.
A year after that my H gave up and checked out. We struggled on for another year and then my H left by which time I'd come out of my fog/depression and wanted to work on the M and stay, I truly recommitted to the M. It was too late, my H had made up his mind and left. Basically just bad timing....he wanted me, I was depressed, by the time I was better he'd checked out and left. He does say though that he did not leave because of the EA but because we couldn't sort it out properly afterwards. I believe that even though he says that it's not cos of the EA he's still very angry with me, not sure how I can get past that.
He's now in a relationship with a close friend of mine who we've both known for 20 years.
