Bomb dropped in July, (began to suspect OM at the time), she moved out in October and then I found evidence of A. Cant say if it is EA or PA, just A. This morning:
Well, it was somewhat of a sad, but eye opening morning. Without going into detail, found the WAS in her car with OM heading off for the weekend. Confronted them, took appropriate photos. Now just attempting to digest all of this. Of course it was not a suprise, but still, the act of seeing it in person can be challenging to digest.
She has called a total of 17 times so far this afternoon and left two vmails. I answered none and at one point just plain turned the phone off. I cant beleive that speaking to the WAS at this point would benefit anyone.
Of course I told her not to her come back to the house, but that will not be enforceable from a legal standpoint right now. With both the boys in the house, under my extremely careful and watchful eye, I dont want to box her belongings up. I have, however, begun removing all pictures of her in the house.
I will submit the pictures to L as further evidence of A with OM. Of course, they are nothing more than pictures, but compelling when added to the rest.
Not sure what to do now. I have gone totally Dark. Unplugged home phone, turned off cell phone. Both sets of grandparetns are aware of sitch and know the kids are safe at home. I have to travel on Wednesday and was going to use WAS as sitter for kids. Now not sure what to do with that either. FIL & MIL have offered to watch them for me since they live in same city.
Again, nothing new except now I know for sure. One open item, OM says he is in the process of divorcing his W. Should I alert her(are there legal ramifications of this?) and if so, what is the best method? What would I gain, what could I potentially lose? I feel right now that my reasons would be vendictive. Not sure that is a good idea.
Now what to do??
I also suspect she has filed. So that may come into play this week. As I am in a state where Adultry can play into alimony judgements, this is particularly important. I will add that I am sad at this turn of events. I should not be. But am.
Last edited by shellshockedga; 11/14/0910:13 PM.
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present