Changing Man

[Gardener]

So begin daydreaming about what your new man-cave will be like. Once this place sells, where would you like to live? Get picky. You have the luxury now of living in a place that is suited to You...and your new dog. Cheers ~Greek

You, know Greek, I am so blown away by this past year, I was going to move to the Northwest as soon as house sold, D done.

Quick Long story - I am all the more blown away by this because I always believed that my Janet and her children were God's gifts to me in mid-life - for the rest of my life.
We both had the same Divorce lawyer (a woman) 18 years ago. As I left the courthouse, Lawyer said, "Now that you are officially divorced, you should get on with your life. And now that you're officially divorced I can do something I've never done in 22 years of practice. I have this client. Every time, I see her I think of you. Every time I talk to you, I think of her. Here's her name and number. Call her."
Outside the courthouse right after having my life dismantled, I thought, "WTF? No way, Jose! Begone, Satan!"'

Well, I called her. 8 weeks later. We talked on the phone for hours and weeks before we even met. One year after we actually met, D Lawyer became Justice of the Peace for a day and married us. Great story, great marriage, great life. Gone. Poof!
End Long, wonderful story.

So, I've decided that I have just too many stresses in my life right now to pull up stakes. I'm going to wait a year.There are quite a few rentable cottages on estates in this area. I'm going to look for one and maybe barter some rent for caretaking. I am, after all a Professional Gardener (Clever DB handle, huh?Family and friends would never find me here!)

And I had to admit to myself the other day - tough to admit - I was weighing the two options wondering which one might lend itself more to an eventual reconciliation: Being gone for good or being around here and bumping into each other occasionally. I was almost embarrassed by the thought of it, but hey, there is a Divorced But Not Done Forum, right? Go figure.

Either way, next place will be small, spartan, monastic and simple. I'm not materialistic, I just need simple things and my treasures.

Gardener, prattling on and on and on again, as usual!

[SpyBunny]

Whereever your new digs are, I hope you will be happy and at peace- take that back- I know you will.

On a side note- I'm not that much younger, but who the heck are Mountain and Janet West?

Hugs- Bunny

[Gardener]

Bunny,

Whereever your new digs are, I hope you will be happy and at peace- take that back- I know you will.

Thank you and hugs.

On a side note- I'm not that much younger, but who the heck are Mountain and Janet West?Hugs- Bunny

Okay, Bunny: you asked for it Leslie West. Leslie West. (sheesh!) Lead guitarist of Mountain, great hard Rock-pre Heavy metal jam band of early 70's. Started by the Producer of Cream. First gig was Woodstock. Only one top 40 hit (like who cares?): "Mississippi Queen". Considered by Jimi Hendrix, Pete Townsend and Jimmy Page as America's greatest rock guitarist. If he hadn't weighed 400 lbs. and was ugly as sin, he would have been a superstar. Still playing, 40 years later, though mostly blues now. I've seen him 55 times since 1970 (Am I a Fan-atic or what??)

More than you wanted to know, I'm sure, but you got me started!

[SpyBunny]

I like "Mississippi Queen"- good song. Never knew who sang it until now!

[antlers]

(((((Gardener)))))

I have some words for you (long) - I hope you take the time to really let them sink in...This isn't mine however I found it so long ago and never shared it until now...You will be just fine my friend. (((Hugs & Love)))

Let It Go
No, that’s not for you.
Let it go.
I know you think it was what you need, but you must let it go.
It will hurt you if you don't let it go.
I have something better for you if you will let it go.
Oh I know it may feel right, and things may seem to fall into place,
Things aren’t always what they seem, what you are feeling is not from Me.
You’re walking after the flesh and not in the Spirit.
Let it go.
I understand you have needs,
I understand you what you are feeling,
I don’t want this to hurt you, and it will, if you don’t let it go.
Don’t allow it to destroy all that you have suffered for, let it go.
I want you to release the pain of the past and move ahead with Me.
You can’t bring the past with you, you can’t hold onto it while walking with Me.
It has no place with Me, I am your future.
Forgive, you must forgive.
Forgive all that have hurt you,
You must turn lose that which is not of Me.
Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old.
You can’t move forward with Me while holding onto your past.
That which is not of Me will lead to death, Let it go.
Didn’t I promise I would do a new thing in you?
It will come forth, I will make a way in the wilderness for you, if you let it go.
Don’t look at what they are doing, don’t look at what they have.
They are not with Me, you are.
Is it worth your walk with Me?
Is it worth the joy that I have given you?
Is it worth your salvation, which I died for?
It won’t open the doors of Heaven, it will only hold you in bondage, Let it go.
I am all that you need.
Haven’t I always been right on time?
Haven’t I always made a way out of no way?
Why do you doubt Me now?
Stop listening to what they are saying.
Why do you care what they say?
I am greater than any circumstance you will ever face.
Now, give it to Me, you can’t handle it, it’s too much for you to bear.
Let it go, take your hands off of it, and give it to Me.
Don’t look back, take My hand, and walk with Me.
My child, let it go.


2 Corinthians 4:8-9
We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed;
we are perplexed, but not in despair;
Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;

As with so many things that make sense on these matters...it's easy to articulate...but it's harder to do! Thank You for posting this.

[Gardener]

(((((Gardener)))))

I have some words for you (long) - I hope you take the time to really let them sink in...This isn't mine however I found it so long ago and never shared it until now...You will be just fine my friend. (((Hugs & Love)))

2 Corinthians 4:8-9
We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed;
we are perplexed, but not in despair;
Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed;

You, Are. My. Angel.
True.

[Serenity13]

(((Gardener)))

Thank you my friend - Your words couldn't have come at a better time

Never heard of Leslie West either (nor Mountain nor Mississippi Queen)

BTW - I am loving the more talkative Gardener

[Gardener]

(((Gardener))) BTW - I am loving the more talkative Gardener

Be careful what you wish for. Gardener is quite talkative (at least I thought so until MC said I "was guilty of unbridled self-expression"

Now that I'm not wallowing in sitch, living inside of STBXW's head, I'm happier as me... and I'm gonna talk!
Signing off for the night, friend. Still have much to do before broker brings two separate prospects to the house tomorrow morning.

Peace.
ps Also signing off because I'm tired an the last couple of bits of advice/comments I gave on this forum were, shall we say, less than stellar

[Serenity13]

Talk away!

Sleep tight and sweet dreams my friend - I wish you nothing but a wonderful day

I will finish posting back to you on my thread so you can read that tomorrow.

(((Hugs)))

[PainfulDusk]

((gardener)) wanted to look in and see how you are. Thx for looking in on my sitch. You sound great and I love the Zen makeover you did on the br. Interesting that someone actually HADNT heard of Leslie West??? LOL, ok ok , musician in me coming out. Hope ur having a great day today.


Dusk