how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

I also have to think about why knowing how hurt I am makes me look unattractive? Wouldn't a guy want his partner to be upset that he walked out? Doesn't it just justify his leaving to him if it appears to be no big deal to me? And just in the world of whine, why does he get to walk away without hearing even just a little about what I feel about it? La la la and out the door, no troubles, no worries?

I know I am arguing with those much wiser than I--and I do want your advice and I am listening--but one reason he went looking for an A was my reserved expressions of love. So off he goes and if I don't let him know how I feel--he is more justified to himself.

I appreciate advice on how to sort this out in my mind so I can work on detaching--