He WON'T feel the love, so long as he is in contact with your sister. That's a physiological FACT. Right now, his brain is all awash in PEAs (looove chemicals), and it's masking his feelings for you, and he's RE-WRITING YOUR MARITAL HISTORY.
It's all SCRIPT.
I know, it doesn't make it HURT any less, but please don't take what he says about "never" having feelings for you to heart.
Personally, I'd advise against YOU telling your sister. I think your position with your husband right now needs to be "this is YOUR mess; YOU get to clean it up."
I also still don't know if I believe him when he says the feelings are one-sided.
Puppy
He doesn't want her to know he liked(s) her. He says there is no reason for her to know. If I leave it to him she will never find out until he finally hits in her or asks her out or something. If she knows SOME reason why she should cut down the contact with him maybe she would and he would lose the pursuit.
I don't know what to say about her feelings towards him. I know that he is not the type of guy she is usually attracted to. He's not her 'type'.
As far as he's concerned, he has made the decision to divorce me and sees no reason to try an squash any feelings (new or old) for her.
He said we just grew apart. After our daughter he thought things were better but then our son came along and we spent more time apart becoming room-mates. He said he fought those feelings and tried to grow back the love feelings for so long he is tired of doing it. I know his increased contact with my sister is clouding any chance of him giving us a shot again.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
