how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

I have been reading the boundary and detaching threads. Repeatedly. Trying to absorb them.

I guess I get that he doesn't care if I hurt. I think it hurts more to think that he thinks I am fine because "I never really loved him' and "I'm too independent" anyhow. It hurts to continue the silence about our feelings that killed the R in the first place. So that is the 180 I am struggling with--talking about feelings is a true 180, but absolutely not the thing to do!!

thanks for the advice; I know I should maintain radio silence and I will do that.

Detach detach detach.