WAW said "after I move out, will you still look after me when I am sick?" I said "no, we will be separated - you can't have the best of both worlds". Later, I relented a bit when she asked again.
Fail. You needed to stand your ground. She was testing you to see if she could get you to change for her. Remember Cunningham" "If you can't stand up TO her how can you stand up FOR her".
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I think she is starting to question the validity of moving out, but will be too proud to change her mind since she is this far. This could be a big waste of money in order for she and I to both "feel whole" as she said last night.
I agree. That's why YOU need to make sure that YOU don't offer her the ability to change her mind. Encourage the move. If you make it too easy she won't respect you. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about.
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I will keep being the nice guy and giving her something to really miss even into December as she "moves out slowly". But, i think she is in for a big surprise in January when I politely request real separation for a while.
Replace 'nice guy' with 'real man'. Otherwise I agree with this.
I made a lot of these mistakes and learned from them as my divorce progressed. Now it's filed and will be final in a few weeks. It's too late for me, and realistically, she hasn't changed so I would be foolish to put effort into anything except being the man I am meant to be.
