Not sure what to do

[Lost Rabbit]

At the moment Stu you are totally responsible for everything that has gone wrong in her life! Thats how she sees it! WRONG! What you have to start showing her is that actually SHE is responsible for the things going wrong. But be warned she is going to hate it, so far she has blamed you, so set her free theoretically to get on with it, ok her parents may help but if they are being good parents they will also want her to stand on her own two feet and get on with things.

Always do everything you agreed to do, eg pick S up when you said you would, do things on the house like you said you would, you have to be without fault, but where the detaching comes in, is no rescuing her from herself, if she plans badly or something comes up she'd like to do, TOUGH if you hadnt arranged it early she has to lump it! She just cant do it.

Ok she is sure gonna get angry a helluver lot more before she sees sense, but helping her isnt going to help. And you have to come to terms that all this may end up with is you both being good parents and maybe one day friends.

Its true we all go along well for a few days then need folks to motivate us again, but the patches in between do get smaller!