I just learned from my H that he has always had some degree of feelings for my sister. She does not know this. I asked him if he would pursue her if she did not have a boyfriend and he said he didn't know. I asked him if he knew what that would do to the entire family, his and mine. He said he wasn't sure what would happen. I asked if this was what contributed to our separation. He said no, that was all 'our' doing the he truly did love me when we got married. He said that as our relationship deteriorated he started seeing her in a different way.
Right now I am not sure I want to 'bust' this divorce or not. I am a bundle of emotions. I think I am going to take a break from my wedding ring. I need to decide if I want to be with someone who could feel this way.
If I choose to continue to try this, what actions would I take from here? Should I tell my sister his feelings? (He has asked me not to. He said she 'doesn't need this BS, she is trying to live her life without this Sh**.")
I was crying but now I am just mad. Please help.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
