It's too hard sometimes

[TooLateForMe]

I actually explained to D13 before I said anything to W. That was handled with sensitivity and respect. I can manage that w/ the girls.

My initial wish was to simply ignore W, but then suddenly felt the need to draw my own line in the sand. My former codependent W is now very aggressive and over-reactive to any behavior she sees (often inaccurately) as an attack on her. I just wanted to communicate that she needs to tell me how she feels instead of attacking me and telling me how to behave.

I don't need the trust from her that that might imply, just the civility. The fact that she hasn't and probably won't reply to the email is actually nice for me. I don't want contact w/ her for a long while. I do need that detachment. I realize that I can't control how she feels or what she thinks. I'll let her be mad. Reconciliation feels like a fairy tale right now, so I'll concentrate on more believable goals.

Thanks for the advice per the email. I will keep that in mind in the future. For now, I'm working on me and hopefully that will make some difference in the R, but saving the R isn't the goal any more. Saving me is.