She sent me a text.."Almost done.S's friend is here."
Now to most of you that would mean nothing.
I coach S's basketball team and that was about 15 min's after practice, don't know why she cared, she was throwing a going away party for one of my flipping friends and I didn't even get invited.
Talked to friend on phone, wished 'em luck in their move.
S said what's that Dad another mean text from Mom. Said yep, "I'm not going to respond." Sent him home with the shirts.
Funny thing S said Dad you didn't need to take your frustration out on us at practice, a water break would've been great after all that running:)
The last concert I went to with wife...AC/DC and they played Big Jack he's always got your back.
Trapt,Cat,Lost,Grace,Mach,Jack, listen I love you all...I have cried off and on all damn day. I've prayed all day.
I went and got some color for the outside of this duplex.
I talked to friend of wife's 18 yr old kid that for his grad present took him to Disney with us, 2 wks before wife lost it. He said that he knew wife filed and he felt bad for me and changed subject with her. She asked me to leave 24hrs after we took him to the airport to go to college, he and I both want to be home. Anyway he said no one will love her like you do her. Wife told him a couple wks ago she filed, "because she didn't think it'd work out."
Guys I've spoiled this woman since I've met her. She gave me an STD, loved her, i put up with her mother, loved her, I loved her when she weighed over 200lbs and I loved her when she weighed 130 lbs. This is so frustrating, because no I wasn't perfect, but I didn't have an affair, I never won a fight, cause I never put up one. I paid for everything. This really is so not rite. Hell she loves Ozzy, I got her back stage to meet Ozzy. I know it's all about her, but she really isn't being fair.
Don't know if it was right or not,but it hit me so I did it. Talked to S, said hey when go to bed hug your mom and then kiss her on the cheek and say that kiss is from Dad.
You're just hurting right now. I still go through bouts of it. Less these days, but sometimes I swear it lies in wait.
Maybe you spoiled her. What would you differently? How have you started to take care of yourself?
No, it isn't fair, life just isn't. You can only work your way through the hurt. There aren't any short cuts (not that work).
I wouldn't have told S to do that if only b/c he is the one that see's her reaction. It puts him in a place he shouldn't be IMO.
There isn't anything he or you or anybody can do to make her see anything other than what she does. There won't be an aha moment b/c of anything anybody else says or does.
Good days are coming...one way or the other. Did you spoil her...I am positive of that. Right or wrong.......there isn't really an answer for that. You did what your heart wanted to do during those times....and that is what matters at the end of the day.
Let's look at the reality of life...shall we. You put your wife on a pedestal for many years and now she probably hates you for it. I did the same with my wife.....but let's look at what has happened with my wife as she looked for something better. She was cheated on, emotional abused, mentally controlled, and finally physically abused by OP1. OP2 tried to just use her for sex and when that didn't happen..OP was gone. OP3 tried to use her for sex by buying her out....rumors have that turned into an ugly fight at a bar. OP4....just disappeared without a word. Yet my wife has said I offer no security....Hmmmmm. Experience will show that I am the better option. I know that I am the better option and getting better every day (Thanks DB-world...lol). So are you the better option? Give her space and let her find out.
There isn't anything he or you or anybody can do to make her see anything other than what she does. There won't be an aha moment b/c of anything anybody else says or does.
My kids need to know I love their mom, more importantly I need to love their mom. If I didn't would I be here? I'm not trying to save a marriage for my kids or myself.
I love her more than she does herself and I love my family more than I do myself.
Secondly she needs to know that regardless of what she does, i love her, too, I'm not going to support all her decisions and vent here.
I could've dropped her and had her attitude and i haven't. That's not a choice, that is my internal make up.
I'm the rock for my children and God willing for her to...
My children need consistency and the most important thing I can do is love their mom and take this stuff on the chin.
I'm the one she turned into a nothing existence and my word is everything.
I did get a couple of tatoos so her name is covered up. For now I didn't cover up the one of her name that she and I got together.
If you want to know what kidn of husband you had, I guess divorce him, because i don't need property or money. I wanted my family.
I've been reading, praying, smoking like a chimney, reading, praying, adding to my library.
I get another shot at this deal, I'm going to be one hell of a husband. Realized areas where our communication lacked and how there were boundaries I crossed and her vice versa.
I sent thank you notes to everyone that has helped or prayed for us to date, yes even my attorney and the old counselors. Did it for me, made me feel good.
I got some stuff to add color to the adventure duplex. Got a flag and hung it on the garage "Welcome to the Nut House."
Stenciled Faith Hope Love on the living room wall, ordered the poster "Lifes Lessons." Stencil the kids rooms tonite.
Landlord doesn't like it, TS. Get my kids tonite can't wait.
I texted and called D 12 times this wkend, nothing back.
Then this am she texted and asked me to take her to lunch.
"No way poopoo head, you couldn't even text me hi back this wkend. c you tonite."
MLC cc'd me on an email in regards to detention, nothing to respond to, so didn't.
Had my blood pressure checked it's the lowest it's ever been, now I just need to gain the 40 plus lbs I lost back.
I have under $500 in my checking acct to last until the 10th and that doesn't bother me.
