Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

I was checking out past threads in the seperated forum and the infidelity forum. I discovered that only 10-20% of the posters in the seperated forum did NOT divorce. It was 60-70% in the infidelity forum.

Does this mean that if the reason for seperation or unhappy spouse is due to an affair then the odds of recovery are better?

This experience of fighting for my marriage has been the loneliest time in my life. Several of my friends just want me to leave him and let my son grow up in a split custody situation.

Upon reflection, those people did not personally experience divorce parents; their parents are still together. They also seem to quickly forget my WH's reedemable qualities and with one fell swoop categorize him as an evil scumbag.

I see him as having something broken inside; a mental problem; he will realize what he almost gave up after he comes home. On the other hand, I know I will be okay if the worst happens. If we didn't have a child, I would be thin, working, divorced by now and dating probably.