It's too hard sometimes

[TooLateForMe]

Got an email from W about how I "snapped" at D13 last night on the phone. What I did was ask that D not talk about her mom and to go into the other room as I didn't want to hear W's voice while I had a pleasant chat w/ my DD. My tone may have changed to a serious one but I made an effort to be nice about it.

I'm sick of the reactionary, mommy attitude W has had of late and replied w/ this:

I did not snap at DD13. In the future please ask me about things before telling me how to behave. I don't appreciate being told how to act when you weren't part of the conversation. I simply asked her not to talk about you and to go into the other room. She clearly didn't like this and got off the phone quickly. My tone may have changed slightly but I did not snap at her. If there is going to be a problem every time I have any contact with them or you then I will have no contact at all. This is very frustrating and I feel like every single thing I do is going to get a reaction.

The "at all" is in reference to taking some "time to myself." I thought I had made this clear to W, that I wanted a period w/out any contact from her and minimal contact w/ DDs. I apologized about that and planned to continue emails w/ the girls, but not w/ W.

This will likely cause a total negative reaction and for her to shut me out completely. I'm fed up w/ the crap I'm taking. I know I dished out plenty of my own, but I feel like she gets to set all terms and chew me out even when I do nothing wrong.