If you want to connect with her, you can do that...opening a hole in the fortress of disapproval standing between you and her is up to you. At any rate, she needs to know that you recognize/acknowledge her efforts to get closer to you, rejection is a tough pill to swallow, and likely feeds her anxiety and flightiness.
Matilda and Aud, The dance practice has resumed between my W and I on an almost weekly basis. I turn on the music, start practicing on my own, wait for her to join me and than we practice. She has a sharp eye and can usually pick out some flaws for me to correct, that I wouldn't catch on my own.
I'm finding myself wanting to join my W at her dance venues more often. I continue my weekday ballroom venue, and lesson, but on the weekend look to see what my W is doing, and unless there's a favorite ballroom event, I go with her to a latin venue. This weekend I volunteered to drive a caravan to the next city for a latin night as there is no latin night in our city this weekend. I didn't wait for an invitation from my W.
My W has started walking during her lunch hour. This is new behavior, and I praise her for her effort.
I passed a kidney stone earlier this week. My back feels better than it did before I first started having back problems. The inflammation was due to a kidney stone slowly travelling down and out. Thank goodness, I thought I had a back injury given the pain I was in, and the lack of efficacy of the exercises and antiinflammatories.
My W was telling the story of how I criticized her tuna casserole during our dating days to her friend. I've heard this story dozens of times, and her intent seems to be passive-aggressive each time. I always cringe when this story is told, because I do feel guilty about my behavior at the time. This time when she told the story, she added how much I've changed since that time.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
