LOl a wine bottle upside on his head would be an extreme waste of good wine :) Drinking it alone will be a waste too.. how about saving it for a dinner with him?
Yes, I think weeding out the bad really sounds perfect, and yes it is what we're doing here.
By the way.. before hitting him with that bottle think about this..... ( I"m ashamed of this story... but I guess I better blurt it out... ) There were quite a few back and forths in our working things out 5 years ago. ONe day she will be out of the picture and we had a go at fixing our marriage, next week she was back in the picture and the fixing was a no go! I was so upset. I"m a very controlled person in most situations, but i was really loosing control there. I remember just yelling something at him and retreat to the kitchen. I decided the best thing to do before really exploding was to get the dishes out of the dishwasher and try to calm down. He followed me to the kitchen still giving me excuses and justification on how there was no way we couldn't work out the marriage. My dishwasher is a portable one. I have to roll it up to the sink when I use it and back to its place when I'm done. I"m opening and closing the door, taking the dishes out, making noise just trying to drown his voice, and he is nowere to quit. I finish, unplug the whole thing and he's still talking. I try to push the darn thing back to place but it's stuck. And he keeps giving me ridiculous excuses and I"m ready to explode! Pull the dishwasher, push the dishwasher, hear him talking, dishwasher doesn't move, hear him talking... EXPLOSION TIME!!!!!!!! I give it a final push out of anger and the silly things flyes towards him. 3 cracked ribs! First time I explode and that happens!!!!! ANd I didn't even mean to do it, I just wanted that dishwasher out !
SO know I"m much better at controling myself in all occasions LOL Really really ashamed at the outcome there, but i swear it wasn't done on purpose! Hugsies nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
As an amateur gardener (on many levels) I vote for "weeding out the bad"...and having been on the BB a looong time...I don't think I've seen that one before~
Now, what did you mean about my thread locking out? I just posted there!
I do not know what you guys do at that club, but I am sure that there are about a hundred more private places to see her in town, if David had wanted to see her without the whole world knowing. The whole point is: secrecy is bad, being out in the open leads to resolution. He might have thought you'd be there also.
I am only playing devil's advocate...
And Shiny, I promise I saw your thread locked earlier today. And I only started drinking wine tonight, since H was designated driver. A horrible Sardinian red, which has given both a headache, BTW.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Good morning Pam, I am glad you are having a better day. When I came back from dinner you had 8 or 9 new pages in your thread, but my D got sick and I couldn't read them until now.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
I woke up really angry at H and OW and very vengeful. Not a good mind frame for the new day. I wanted to scream 'whore' at her in front of her whole church (she goes to T.D. Jakes' in Dallas). She even sent me a book by him 'to help me in my sitch' after we had compared stories and unmasked my H's lies: 'Woman thou art loosed!' It came with a note that said 'I hope this book helps to lift your spirits and confort you. My prayers are with you'
Don't they teach the 10 commandments in church anymore? I thought evangelical churches were big on bible lore. Of course she may be an unredeemed member of the Rahab house.
I also toyed with the idea of suing her a** for fraud and denouncing her to the IRS (I am pretty sure she has not declared my H's gifts).
So, instead of waking H up and making a mess of it, I came to the BB. Well I am supposed to be preparing a conference that I give today, but ...
Wow, how good it feels to vent! I think I can go back to my talk now.
Last edited by optimist; 10/21/0311:24 AM.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
:) Drinking it alone will be a waste too.. how about saving it for a dinner with him?
) There were quite a few back and forths in our working things out 5 years ago. ONe day she will be out of the picture and we had a go at fixing our marriage, next week she was back in the picture and the fixing was a no go! I was so upset. I"m a very controlled person in most situations, but i was really loosing control there. I remember just yelling something at him and retreat to the kitchen. I decided the best thing to do before really exploding was to get the dishes out of the dishwasher and try to calm down. He followed me to the kitchen still giving me excuses and justification on how there was no way we couldn't work out the marriage. My dishwasher is a portable one. I have to roll it up to the sink when I use it and back to its place when I'm done. I"m opening and closing the door, taking the dishes out, making noise just trying to drown his voice, and he is nowere to quit. I finish, unplug the whole thing and he's still talking. I try to push the darn thing back to place but it's stuck. And he keeps giving me ridiculous excuses and I"m ready to explode! Pull the dishwasher, push the dishwasher, hear him talking, dishwasher doesn't move, hear him talking... EXPLOSION TIME!!!!!!!! I give it a final push out of anger and the silly things flyes towards him. 3 cracked ribs! First time I explode and that happens!!!!! ANd I didn't even mean to do it, I just wanted that dishwasher out !
