how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Thanks for the clarification.

He's out of the house and totally with OW. I am pretty much dark except for the house and finances. We have 2 apartments to deal with, so we do have to work together on that. Working on the joint finances together was a mutual decision, to keep all the bank stuff clear and straight, not me asking for help with my banking.

So, it almost seems that I am almost tough loving. I guess. He's out; we don't talk; email only for house or other coordination thngs; I am out with friends all the time.

I'll look at gucci's posts and the Dobson book to get more information.

thanks!