Newcomer, want to keep my hope alive!

[iwantittowork]

Mass has a child support guideline since 1/1/2009 that's pretty rigid as I understand it..

Currently everything is based on pay differences, and according to both attorneys since the pay scale is so disparate between her/me that I also will have to pay alimony, at least for a period of time.

They don't bother to even look at current liabilities. STBXW and I decided to invest in some properties to build, and since I have the income, they and the mortgages are in my name. Currently they are just a drain on finances, no money coming in, and essentially upside down in value.

Guess what? In court she is saying that she had no say in that decision, and it is all mine to deal with. At least the judge said to her lawyer, "Well, if there was equity in them currently, you would be asking for a share of that wouldn't you?"

I would have never gotten into them without her support, she went to all the meetings with partners, builders, real estate professional and when I balked a bit on them in private discussion with her, she told me "We'll be fine, it will work out in the end."

In any event, I may wind up having to default on those mortgages and take the credit hit so that I can pay her the child support and alimony.

Like I found out in mediation. I am the only one at financial risk here, her name is not on anything but the marital home deed. I have to pay for the marital home through the temporary support order, She'll have to 'write the check' so to speak but the support figure is higher than the mortgages/utilities combined, and that doesn't include her weekly salary, and previous marraige child support.

I was the only one at risk emotionally as well, as she was moving on and looking to date.

I can change none of it, I just don't know what to do next.