Not sure what to do

[Gardener]

Stu,

I wouldnt send her the link, DB is our secret and you dont want to let her in on the techniques. First off one of the rules is dont believe a word they say and only 50% of what they do! She knows full well that every word she tells your parents will get back to you, so in your best interests ask mum and dad not to pass on any info, they only want the best for you and that wont necessarily be whats really good for you!

All I ever used to say to my H was that "I was not prepared to give up on my marriage and would prefer to work at it" just calmy and matter of factly, not needy or pursuing just a statement. In fact I dont even have to say it now he knows lol!

Stu the worst bit about the few weeks after post bomb is you are going to hear a lot of things you really hate, you have to perfect the "water of a ducks back" technique as other wise you will sink every time she says something painful! Honestly you will think at the moment that life isnt worth living and you cant sort things out but believe me you can and will, it might not be the way you originally planned but it will be good!

Hope you copy of DB comes soon as Im sure reading that will make it clearer what we are all talking about!

Take care

Rabbit

Stellar advice from rabbit! Heed every word of it and do it!