New here, this is my story...

[Gardener]

HelpMe,

I've found myself in a new sort of slump. Instead of being sad when I am away from home, I find myself far more sad at home. Of course there are memories...pictures, the kids, making dinner without my w, etc.. Then there is the jealousy...what is she doing? Is she meeting someone right now? Is she dating? I don't think that is the case; but those are the thoughts in my mind.

While there are many suggestions and strategies to cope with so much of this sh!t, sometimes you (I) gotta face the fact that you can't cure "Normal" This is normal. Feel it. It sucks, but feel it. It is. Don't wallow (believe me, I know).

Of course, when I am away, then I assume it is her doing that. maybe not. She says she doesn't miss me often, but sometimes does. of course, when i am away, I am GALing to no end. I am out with friends, playing cribbage with a stranger at the neighborhood bar, etc... I enjoy myself, I don't feel too lonely. But at home, when the kids go to bed, wow...the lonliness really sinks in.

Normal.

I want my W back and now I need to start "falling out of love with her" WTF does that mean anyway?

I don't know. Who told you that, again? Sounds like nonsense. IMO

Tonight it is supper, then some Wii and maybe a movie with the kids, then it is bedtime. Maybe there is a Rocky marathon or something on that I can watch and take my mind off everything. I don't know.

Don't do too much vegging. Or pity-partying. Screw Rocky. TV vegging makes our minds fall below the level of thought. You need to think. Read. Read DR. Read any R books. Exercise. Unplug the TV. That's what I do and that one extra step to turn it on usually reminds me and makes me say, "Ah, screw it."Your wife is struggling w/her decision? Great! Start DBing like nobody's business, man!

Does anyone have advice on how to fall out of love? Is that even good advice from our MC? He said that we need to get back to square one in order to do anything...and that means falling out of love and then seeing if we fall back in love. I just am not sure about that. Thoughts?

No idea. Did you ask him what the heck that means and how one does it and how the heck that will help? Maybe you should "fall out of" MC's office. For good.

lil 2x4s & gentle slaps upside the head!