how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[pearlharbr]

Puppy and I were discussing this earlier. Either you follow strict DB principles of waiting it out and letting the affair run it's own course OR you decide to not allow the cake eating, establish and maintain boundaries, and move forward with your own life (acting like a WAS).

People here tend to fall into one or the other camp because the tactics involved are often opposing. It's up to you to decide which way to go. But I will say that it's best to choose one and stick to it because waffling is not attractive and it can hurt your sitch.

This is from OrlandoGator's thread this afternoon:

I do think that, in general, "infidelity" is the one area that DB/DR is weakest at. I think it requires some particular techniques, strategies and tactics that DOVETAIL with the standard DB principles, but have to be done a little differently.

And sometimes, it just flat-out contradicts.