Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[CountingCrows]

I've done a pretty good job of avoiding any R discussions. Not too hard when we barely see/talk to each other anymore since I stopped initiating the texts/calls. But I did casually ask during conversation the other morning if she was still in contact with OM. She replied "Some...but I'm also talk to _____ and _____ and oh ____ is stuck in ____ with a car broken down. Their transmission broke on the way to pick up their D..." and just pushed it off on that tangent. I know that they're texting every day, pretty much all day until bedtime and that she's talked to him voice at least a few times. I know she doesn't want to get in a fight or "upset" me with the truth...but I wanted to grab her and say "Just this once, I wish you'd just be honest with me!!".

So, are you saying that the shock-and-awe is the ill-advised method, or that doing it sequentially was worse. How do you have that conversation multiple times with the same message?

Today has been VERY stressful at work. New top level manager position was created and filled with a Steve Jobs-type CIO. He's got grand visions of how things should be and is disgusted with the way things are here. Had a long meeting this afternoon with him talking about the new direction we are going to take. Got back to my office and just wanted to pick up the phone, call W and cry out "I miss you so much!!! I want my best friend and partner back!!!" She was always such a good listener and made me feel like she really cared about how work affected me. Of course, being our only source of income, it was/is important to her too that I'm happy and doing well at my job. I really miss that kind of caring support. I've got other friends I can talk to...but they don't really want to hear about my office stuff. Guess it's better to vent it here.