Hey FIB, As you know I am a recent reader of your thread because I appreciate your straight forward, no nonsense style that I stumbled upon on other threads. We did the best we could with the tools we had at the time. I don't think we can blame ourselves for the action of our WAS...I know the general thought on this site is that we have to accept that we were also to blame. Well, I don't buy into that. We all tried DBing and hung on...some of us continue to ...longer than we should. I was told early on by my dad to move on. I chose not to. I do not regret it...i do not regret anything I did. We are not the reason why we are on this site...remember that. I love the quote from antlers above. As long as our core values are fine, we will be fine. I would rather be me than the WAS even if they seem to have suffered less and are seemingly able to turn the page quicker than us. I would not change my place for theirs... You will be ok FIB...there will be bumps on the road...going forward. Do yourself a huge favour and stop looking back and second guessing yourself. The past is just that...you can do something about today and maybe tommorow. There are good folks out there FIB....you will see.
