Another waw/mlc and I need support

[cyclone]

Had to have thick skin last night. Got home from work and made the kids dinner. W was watching tv the whole time. All seemed to be fine. As I was making dinner she mentions that she would like me to watch the kids Friday night so she can go to some Green event. I told her that would be fine; I also asked if she could watch the kids Sat night or should I get a babysitter because I wanted to go out. She asked where I would be going and I told her just "out".

As I was cleaning up the kitchen, W tells the kids they need to go do their homework and get ready for bed. Being 7 and 9, they don't listen right away. She gets a bit frustrated and looks at me and says, "See, this never happens when you aren't here. They listen when it's just me. This is another reason why we can't be together." I replied simply, "I understand that you are frustrated and I'm sorry you feel that way." She then says "And now I am just eating because of this. I don't do this when you aren't around." Again "sorry you feel that way"

I let her words roll of me and told the kids I had to get going to band rehearsal. Told them goodnight and left.

The tough part of all of this is that she really believes that I am the source of her pain and will probably file for D because she thinks it will make her happy. Detaching is tough - not there yet but getting closer each day.

Where is everyone. A few words of encouragement would be nice!