Advice on DB-ing when sep spouse lives at home

[kjensen]

Last night H asked me if his cousin could come over for Thanksgiving-he said he wasn't sure how to ask me(WTF?..just ask!).. I said fine. I figure the boys can watch football and the girls and I will go to a movie or something... I asked H if we could be civil with a guest and he said he wasn't sure but hoped so...(H doesn't yell with people around-usually-..its just tense sometimes..no fun for guests)

MLJ-your H has impeccable timing! :-( Focus on what you like about Christmas-put your energy there. Make some new memories..I'm just trying to figure out how to do that with H at home in withdrawal/depression...

What I imagine: lots of movies at home, a few out in the theater, maybe sledding if there's snow, making christmas cookies, playing borad games, walks outside if its nice-maybe touring open homes or model homes for fun decorating ideas...bowling..hanging out with friends somewhere other than our home. still thinking of more since I don't think that'll sustain me two weeks...