The only thing I have to go on is late one night before the bill-paying blowup, he sent me an email link to a news article of interest to me. (ambulance stuff, I am an EMT) Just a random connection.
So on Monday this week I sent him a newspaper link--humorous bit about finding an old VW bus--to which he actually responded with some humor.
So I was wondering if it would be OK to go the next step with the DVD, but I will hold off.
The real question is: how to approach this month's bill-paying? it would have to be this upcoming week, and my schedule is really full. The idea was we would do joint bank stuff together so everything is on the up and up, but after last time's episode--I don't know if I should email and ask about getting together to do it. Again, if I just do it myself that is too much independence again. Catch 22, you know?
another part of the story: 15 years ago, when we bought the house with the 2 apartments, I said something brilliant like: "well, if we ever break up, we would have a place to live." He has thrown that at me like half a dozen times now. In the presence of MC, I apologized for saying such a hurtful thing, and swore I never ever thought of it again, as a possible "out" or any such thing. At first I thought he was bringing up the hurt that remark had caused him, but now I realize he is ANGRY---I said we could share the place, so why can't we? I know this isn't logical--a 15 year old remark made by a scared 30 year old doesn't apply to a sudden harsh break up later--but he really seems to think I should be able to stand by that remark.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
