Take it for what it's worth...our W's are simply justifying their emotions. Yes, we contributed to the demise of our marriages...but so did our spouses. Let them think and feel what they want...don't take it personally. I'm learning to laugh it all off. We are all going to be just fine...regardless of our situation.
Yep. They do whatever they need to do to justify their actions.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
don't take it personally.[/quote[Yep. My new Mantra. I'm learning to laugh it all off. [quote=Looking_For_Help] We are all going to be just fine...regardless of our situation.
Double yep. Thanks.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Update. Bad couple of hours, but the day will be Fine. STBXW and Best-SIL-In-The-World came over w/moving truck and took the rest of everything hers: piano, pictures, some furniture, boxes & stuff. STBXW was gone mostly - had to go to new apt to meet cable guy. SIL & I chatted I thanked her for confidentially letting me vent via email the last couple of days. STBXW came back to supervise the rest. Once again, with witnesses, the cold dead eyes and disdainful expression was absent.
They left. I had a good ten-minute cry amidst the new(er) emptiness of the house (ah, the piano, where every Thanksgiving and Christmas for 17 years, my nephew would play, my son would sing - great voice, he's starring in a regional musical this month - and we would all listen to them).
Then the christmas decoration boxes, with stepson's 3rd grade macaroni and silver painted star. Every Christmas Eve it was the last decoration to go up. He would put it up (he's 6'4") and every year as he did it I would say,
"Through the years we all will be together If the fates allow StepS, hang the brightest star atop the highest bough!"
I will miss that this year. They will, too, I'm sure.
But it will be okay. Hey, I've got buckets of wonderful memories!
I'm okay, now. Really. Got a great day ahead of me! And I have no plans and don't know what it has in store for me.
Last edited by Gardener; 11/13/0905:15 PM.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
They left. I had a good ten-minute cry amidst the new(er) emptiness of the house (ah, the piano, where every Thanksgiving and Christmas for 17 years, my nephew would play, my son would sing - great voice, he's starring in a regional musical this month - and we would all listen to them).
I'll betcha a drum set would fit PERFECTLY where that piano was! And do you have a dog? Might be time to get one, Gardener! These are two good pages out of Coach's survival book
Cheers~~~ To your NEW life! Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
They left. I had a good ten-minute cry amidst the new(er) emptiness of the house (ah, the piano, where every Thanksgiving and Christmas for 17 years, my nephew would play, my son would sing - great voice, he's starring in a regional musical this month - and we would all listen to them).
I'll betcha a drum set would fit PERFECTLY where that piano was! And do you have a dog? Might be time to get one, Gardener! These are two good pages out of Coach's survival book
Cheers~~~ To your NEW life! Greek
Love the dog idea. I have 2. And the great thing about a dog is they NEVER disagree with you. At least, mine hasn't yet.
They left. I had a good ten-minute cry amidst the new(er) emptiness of the house (ah, the piano, where every Thanksgiving and Christmas for 17 years, my nephew would play, my son would sing - great voice, he's starring in a regional musical this month - and we would all listen to them).
Then the christmas decoration boxes, with stepson's 3rd grade macaroni and silver painted star. Every Christmas Eve it was the last decoration to go up. He would put it up (he's 6'4") and every year as he did it I would say,
"Through the years we all will be together If the fates allow StepS, hang the brightest star atop the highest bough!"
I will miss that this year. They will, too, I'm sure.
But it will be okay. Hey, I've got buckets of wonderful memories!
I'm okay, now. Really. Got a great day ahead of me! And I have no plans and don't know what it has in store for me.
