Can anyone offer suggestions on how to move forward with this? . . . Can anyone please offer a solid / clear suggestion on how to support her with this job.
I can see that I need to work in steps here.
1. Get her to be my friend again. Listen, support, validate, not control (I do have a bad habit of doing that passively)
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I'm probably the wrong one to ask, 'Nads. I'm a pretty old-fashioned guy. If my wife is exhibiting the kind of behavior yours is, and hundreds of dollars of cash are unaccounted for, I'm going to do everything within my power to FIRST get to the bottom of it, before i worry about getting her "to be my friend again."
But that's just me. In case you haven't figured it out by now, I'm the resident Cynic here.
