Thanks everyone. GIMA - I don't know how to do that yet. Help? I still find myself hoping every single day that he will come back, come around, feel the loss, etc. I begin to doubt the baby steps and feel frustrated. It's not like he's totally gone yet, so I know there's still hope, and I must keep up my DB efforts. However I get feeling down when he doesn't recognize that our M is worth saving. How do I not let this affect me?
I worry what he may or may not do because he can be so emotionally abusive. In california, this has no bearing on a divorce so he is in no way forced to look at himself. I guess I'll keep working on how I want to be treated and walk away when that doesn't happen. I guess I need to remember that if he's going to blame me for all the problems, there is nothing I can do to save the M on my own. I can only not blame myself.Any more suggestions, oh great detachment guru? You seem to really have this down.
