Can I save the marriage? Is it worthy saving? help

[TrentC]

After that. we went to marriage therapy. He said he only wanted to do 100% on in the therapy not any thing outside the therapy. The therapist was not talking any thing about the infidelity even I scheduled a private session with her. So we quit going. He has not read any books the therapist recommanded him to read. I read about 20-30 books about marriage and self improvement and how to protect and kids.

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Now he is saying he needs to see me as a changed person but he does not believe me can change that much. He does not show any remorse only said to me he is very sorry he hurts me so much.
He does not call me unless it is about the kids.

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Do you think this marriage worthy saving? If yes,How should I save it? Thank you very much for reading and replies.

The only person who can decide if the marriage is worth saving is you, because you are the one who is going to do all of the hard work to save it.

As for not believing you can change, being sorry he is hurting the kids, etc. -- that is standard behavior for a wayward or cheating spouse. He's trying to make you feel better about the split; he's also trying to make himself feel better about the split.

Your best option right now is to get a copy of The Divorce Remedy. It discusses a lot of the theories and explanations for the type of advice that you will see on these forums.

If he is involved with another woman, there will be no hope of reconciliation until she is out of his life. So the important thing is to work on yourself -- become the happy, confident woman that he will want to be with.

One thing you can do is start separating your finances; he will be less likely to jet back and forth to China(!) for his affairs if it's all coming out of his pocket.

Others will be along with other advice, I hope. Give them a listen.