What a weird couple of days. She just won't drop the signing of the paper. She says stuff about what I am doing to her. Then she would just go file then since I am backing her into that corner. What?
I told her that I can't control what she does and if she is planning to do it anyways she may as well do it now as I am u unwilling to live like this anymore.
She's back to ultra angry. What swings. I stayed very calm.
I feel done.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
What a weird couple of days. She just won't drop the signing of the paper. She says stuff about what I am doing to her. Then she would just go file then since I am backing her into that corner. What?
I told her that I can't control what she does and if she is planning to do it anyways she may as well do it now as I am u unwilling to live like this anymore.
She's back to ultra angry. What swings. I stayed very calm.
I feel done.
Pssst. You can't win an argument with someone who is unreasonable. So, why try?
W, while I have a different opinion about what we should do with our M, I accept the fact you do not wish to work on the M. So, you are free to get an apartment. In fact, I have decided it would be best for you to do that. But, I will not fund your decision by signing the paper. And given the circumstances, it is not fair for you to ask me to do that. If I were the one who wanted a D, I would not ask you to sign papers like these.
Don't fight her. But, you don't have to enable her either.
I've never commented on your sitch before. I am only starting this journey (5 weeks) but I do understand how hard it is to try to detach and it feels like W gives you hope, only to dash it again.
I started detaching from Monday again, W has not phoned me for long time, I was at friends last night, she phoned me to let my S speak to me(he did not want to so he did not ask her to phone me), then she phoned me today to see what she must get for dinner. Although these are small things they start to give me hope, but then I remember that she told me on Monday she has made her decision and our paths will part.
Just wishing you strength, I know I need as much as I can get!
M: 30 W: 32 Married: 9 years s: 2.8 Bomb dropped: 7-10-09 same house, bed, no physical contact My sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1871805&page=1
I would agree she needs to get an apt or someone on her own. Only way I can see you getting out of this limbo land. I would definitely not sign as you may become liable for any debts she would incur and she needs to have that responsibility.
M 33, W 30, SD 10, D 5, S 4
Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!
Thanks for stopping by guys. I indeed tell her that I thought it best that she go. I cannot live like this any longer. She is adamant that she does not want an apartment. She wants a house or condo. Although I can see how this makes sense to her I do feel that is unreasonable.
It was clear she feels I am trying to control her. I said we made these decisions together so I don't feel is fair for me to accept full, sole responsibility for them. She was completely closed to my words so I gave up.
I actually want her to be gone now. This is new for me.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
She is adamant that she does not want an apartment. She wants a house or condo.
If she wants it so bad let her figure out a way, without you, to swing it. It's her problem to solve. You are not controlling or standing in her way.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I bought myself a new phone to play with a coupleof days ago. It's my birthday present to myself (Verizon's Droid phone).
It's a good distraction.
With my b'day coming (Sunday) followed by the holidays there will be some quiet times in the EB house. I have really mixed feelings about this. Sad, but I just can't live like this anymore.
It feels like its really the end now.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
