Can I save my marriage?

[Kettricken]

Now, in Britt's defense, if you've been strongly socialized/trained to always be polite/considerate/empathetic/forgiving -- IOW, a "nice girl" -- it is hard, hard, and against deeply-ingrained habit to start ignoring someone or terminating conversations before they want you to, etc. (I don't know if that's the case, but it kind of sounds that way.)

You still gotta find a way, Britt. But I know it doesn't come easy. You've been given some really good ideas for how to respond above, and I would actually sit down and devote some time to writing out responses along those lines. Do some role-playing. Next time he says something like, "Why didn't you ask about my day?", what will YOU say? (Hint: it should not contain the word "sorry".) Then you'll be ready.

I don't mean you should obsess on this, and you'll never be able to explore every possible scenario, and you shouldn't try. But when you're trying to execute a very different communications style, practice practice practice.

Someone upthread said that he is treating you the way you let him. So don't let him use you as an unpaid counselor if he doesn't want to be your husband. Why should you serve the cake?