The holidays are all but here and I am resigned to the fact that they will be as a seperated couple. She offered to take the kids for Thanksgiving and let me have them for Christmas. I was surprised by that. I told her that sounded fine.
Her's a suggestion I just gave Motherof3 re how STBXW and I handled holidays for years, though our kids were all teenagers when we married):
Originally Posted By: Gardener
When my STBXW and I married, we solved these easily. To save the kids (hers and mine) the anguish of having to choose which parent to be with (they were old enough to choose) wife and I switched our Thanksgiving to Friday. Everybody was happy, no conflicts, the kids got two thanksgiving meals/celebrations. Wife and I kind of had two Thanksgivings, too. AND an extra day to cook and prepare. Same thing with Christmas: Celebrate, eat, exchange presents Christmas Eve. Kids then went to other parents' houses Christmas Day. Perfect solution all around. We've continued the tradition for 17 years (although it's all shot to hell this year)
Hope it helps.
Originally Posted By: HelpMe!}IAnyone out there see any problems with my approach? I can't go completly black, but I can go really realy dark gray :-)[/quote
If you "can't" go dark, than do as best/as much as you can do.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
