I hope you realize how FORTUNATE you are to have people like CityGirl, Trent, SadGirl, Coach, Ready2Change, Kettricken and others giving you such PATIENT, amazing advice.
I strongly suggest you start IMPLEMENTING some of it, because even though their patience is obviously stronger than mine, there WILL come a day when it wanes, and their posts to you (tho I'm sure not their concern) will decrease.
At some point, YOU have to do the work. I pray it will be very soon.
Puppy
Read the words above THREE TIMES VERY SLOWLY.
Burn these into your head: "DO WORK" & "PASS OUT WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE"
DO WORK - Commit to personal growth. Continually make positive change to YOU. Set a goal to become independent. When you are happily independent, you will be in the right state of mind to work on the R with H. Let him go for now. Have faith that he will want you back in the future.
PASS OUT WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE: You need lots of support right now. Go out and offer your support to other newbies and make connections with them. They will reciprocate. Show them empathy and and offer advise (feel free to take our advise and pass it around). I pass out support and it supports me. It burns important ideas into MY head.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
