Newly Separated and Heartbroken

[ALJ]

I am feeling a bit angry right now and would like anyones opinion on this. I know that as LBS we are not supposed beg, plead, or pursue and I have been good at this so far. Last month my H popped a disk in his back and in a round about way let me know about it through a text. He went to the emergency room and called me to let me know what the doctor said after he got home.

The next day and a few days after, I texted him asked him how his back was feeling or was it getting any better out of concern and he would return the text about the condition of his back at the time.

Now, I am sick. The last time that we spoke, I informed him that I was going to the dr and he said at the end of our conversation to let him know what the dr says. Yesterday I went to the dr and she diagnosis me with bronchitis. I send H a text telling him this and he replies "hummmm, better take care of yourself."

So, today I get the same text from H that I get everytime around this time of the month. The text says " U know I have to pay my car note." This is H text letting me know that he is going to pay his car note out of the joint account which I have no problem with because his unemployment money is deposited in there also. I have a problem because its like he totally ignored the fact that I am sick.

My problem is this, would it kill him to extend the same courtesy of inquiring about how I am doing during my time of sickness like I inquired about him during his? Is he afraid that if he asks me how I am doing that it will send me the message that he cares about me and he does not want to send me the wrong message? Is he just that selfish? I am still the mother of his kids if nothing else to him and I just think its rude of him not to bother to ask. I was thinking about sending him a text expressing my thoughts on his actions. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Any comments or thoughts would be appreciated.