For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

Ugh...I'm about sick just typing this. No, I do not have evidene of any contact other than the electronic kind. But of course, I'm wondering about all of his hotel stays the last year.

If I wanted to bring up the calls, texts, emails - how would I go about doing it?

I'm a little confused - are going pitch dark and dropping the rope the same thing?

A suggestion was made for me to "create" a bf - basically just significantly ramping up my 180s/GALing. Texting while he's here, being on my phone, emailing, looking great, buying flowers for myself. I want to show him that I'm done, I'm in F you mode and I'm moving on - cause that's so close to how I feel anyway.

It's so hard to bring out fun Courtney, bc I'm so extremely angry.

Gardener, I like the idea of just telling him how much $ I need and when I need it. I have not spoken to an attorney to get him pay up, because he's paying! He pays all of our bills - all of them, even my cell phone. I just don't have extra money because I only work about 15 hrs a week and I pay for health insurance for DD and I.

How can I find out if she's married?

You can believe for sure that do I want to give him a boundary and address this. I just don't know the best way to go about it.

He's a liar. He won't talk about anything. I get nowhere with him. As for OW, she makes my skin crawl - someone who cheats and contributes to the breakdown of a family is EVIL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The real task for me is trying to keep my head up and not allowing this to eat me alive. Staying positive for myself and my DD.

The thought of another lonely, deceitful holidy is about more than I take right now.