Brit - also keep in mind many of the people who are offering you what seems like "hardcore" advice have been in their situations for months and/or years. My situation started on March 2, 2008 and it will be today, Nov. 13, 2009 that I will sign the legal separation papers that are to be filed on Monday.
I have learned so much over the past 21 months about me and about R's in general. I also went through hell and worried myself sick and ended up hospitalized. That was my wake up call. I don't want that to be your wake up call.
You matter but you are very green to this process. Six weeks is like a minute for a WAS/LBS but it feels like an eternity because you are still in shock and trying to process this. And that is okay. But you need to try and accept that many of us can see things in your situation in a very different way than you see them because we have no emotional attachment to your H.
Being short is not being detached. It's just being short. Quick calls or texts are fine but be bright and bubbly and be in control.
