She says she is sorry and won't do it again. I say that maybe I should go to the mediator as I am not prepared to watch her pull us further into the credit hole while she is leaving.
I ask for the mediators number and she gives it to me. She doesn't seem really happy about this conversation.
I go out for a while and come back and she wants to talk.
Was very hard and got heated at times I truly do suck at listening and validating peoples feeling (progress not perfection).
So boils down to this. Her mom, dad, sister, and my mom are all people that look down there noses at her not enough support.
That's it she throws in the towel she says and I am somewhere included in that group.
She has a new job and can't talk about it with anyone she says because all everyone expects is for her to be a stay at home mom.
I have been telling her to go back to work for a year. She has been a SAHM for 6 years and man 2 days with those kids is sometimes more than enough for me.
I tell her I understand but I don't see exactly what I did wrong and feel I am being lumped into a group of people when this is about our and ours only relationship.
I do validate that I am perfectly happy with her going back to work and there is no reason we can't work this out.
I do definately go on to long and she says she just wants to watch TV so I shut up. We go to bed
One thing I do notice is we sleep a little closer and she puts a pillow between us and sort of spoons.
Okay please help me to keep this small connection rolling.
