Let him show you why you should give this another shot. He needs to think you are doing some serious thinking here. (as you should be doing) Now is the time to consider what some of your ground rules will be IF you decide to proceed forward. He needs to tell you that he will play by your ground rules because he WANTS to. Don't give up your new found strength easily.
I agree. And I think as a starting point for you, Gina, that there's lots of good fodder in Oldtimer's long 11/2 post to you, as well as Gucci's Halloween post.
