To me, betrayal means he hurt you on purpose, or did something not specifically to hurt you, but that he knew his actions/words would hurt you and proceeded anyway....
I'm not sure someone in MLC has that awareness-at least not consistently.
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I will always love the person he was, but I can't see myself being in love with him again to the point where I would have complete trust in him again.
Maybe not now, maybe not ever..BUT...who knows how you will grow and what amount of forgiveness you can find in your heart?
If you truly come to the awareness that you cannot forgive him or trust him again...the its truly time to move on and not focus on him.
Its been 11 months since I found out about my husband's affair and I thought I couldn't get over it...but I have. I feel bad for my H-he is still processing her dumping him in May and as consumed and obsessed with her and info about her as I was initially...now I only think of her randomly- just a fleeting thought every several days. Not with anger, just sadness for him and for her.
Trust-that one I'm still working on, since the lies and secretiveness continue at the moment.
Keep DBing to get YOU back, to improve YOU. This isn't about "how do i get my spouse back?".. its about how do I become the best person I can be or How do I do I take care of myself and detach with love? How do I deal with a spouse that seems to be abducted by aliens and behaving in ways I never imagined and still support and love them?
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
