Puppy--I am also looking back through your posts. I understand that living the best life I can will help with future R with other people, but still--how to demo to him that I have learned to be open, vulnerable, talk, commit, be intimate? when all those sorts of things are only demonstratable if he ever wants to talk about our R.
Thanks again--
You don't do them to "demo to him."
You do them for YOU.
In making YOU a better Avermont, you will have the highest likelihood of attracting him back, but that shouldn't be your focus nor your motivation.
