how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

And yes, it sounds like Pearl and Grr and I have a lot in common.

Pearl, I have been digging back through your threads, trying to capitalize on your wisdom.

Belive me, oh wise group, I am taking good care of myself, and GAL all over the place.

But of course I am sad, desperate, heartbroken, etc.

I don't see how acting my usual cheerful independent self will make me seem more interesting than the "lots of sex, no job so lots of time to worship him, living with him so she can show devotion 24/7 GF".

Puppy--I am also looking back through your posts. I understand that living the best life I can will help with future R with other people, but still--how to demo to him that I have learned to be open, vulnerable, talk, commit, be intimate? when all those sorts of things are only demonstratable if he ever wants to talk about our R.

Thanks again--