Quick update. We have a charity social function coming up. Apparently, one of the couples who will be stuck to our sides tonight just happens to include the W who is recently re-M'd and told my W some time ago she and her H#1 had a "great D" - they opened a bottle of wine and divided up their property (which included one S) as if it were a party. Uh, ok.
Now, I am comfortable being around W's friend. She's just not on my Christmas card list. And this lady's H is pleasant.
I know others who will be there, so I will have outlets to talk to.
W has been nothing short of extremely nice, pleasant and chatty. Some of the best moods I have seen her in since everything with the D came to light.
So, I'm just going to have a good time at the social function and be me. And, that's good enough.
Good day. Got out for a round of golf. Not my best round, but it was beautiful outside.
W is pleasant. Very talkative. Makes an effort to engage me in conversation. Good, right? But, I have times where I just don't want to talk to her. It is difficult being around her. Not that it makes me uncomfortable. But, that I just don't want to be around her.
A friend of mine reminded me tonight to keep being "supportive." Well, I have been, and it doesn't seem to have made a difference to W (not my goal). I will continue to handle myself honorably, but I asked myself a question tonight in response to my friend: "Why would I want to be around W?" She isn't supporting me, providing me any emotional support and certainly not meeting any of my needs. Selfish of me, I suppose. But that's the mood I'm in right now.
So how can you be happy without any need for her to be supportive?
I challenge you
(coming from one who is similarly challenged...)
You know, I will have to give this some thought. While I have seen many lists on these boards, I do not recall one dealing with meeting your own needs.
Initially, mine would include: -Playing wiht the kids -working on my golf game -spending time with friends
