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I have some things running through my head that I would love some input or advice on please. I am really wanting to detach and am battling to get past these things:

1. If I go and kiss my wife good buy she always kisses me, sometimes they are warm, sometimes not. should I continue to do this or stop?

2. Should I stop saying "I love you" sometimes she says it back and sometimes she says it to me without me saying it (before we go to bed). I only say it when I say good buy in the morning or @ night. should I only say it if she says it?

3. I do phone her (maybe 3 times a week) just to say high. should I stop this, she rarely phones me and it usually only when she wants something.

4. My W says "it's over" "she has made her choice" but then says "We are trying, we are going to MC and we will see where we are after that" It feels like she just scared to say outright that it is over.

thanks