I think that if he is requesting intimacy from you, you deserve to know if he is sleeping with anyone else (he doesnt need to know that you have no intention of giving it up!) If he tries to say that shes just a friend, bring up the fact that you found all of those emails, calls, texts. Do you have any evidence that they have actually had contact besides just the electronic kind? I would tell everyone if you have proof. His parents, your parents.
Dont email her, it will make you seem like a crazy bi+(h. I would tell him that you are not happy that he has this inappropriate contact with her, whether its a friend, or not, that much contact is not appropriate for a married man. And is disrespectful to you, your DD, and your M.
Then go pitch black. Absolutely no contact unless its about DD, and even then, only when he brings it up.
Ramp up the GALing and 180s, or recommit to them. Remember the fun courtney? She needs to come out now and show your sleaze ball H what hes missing.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
